Soft Skills: Don't Tell Don't Ask
TL;DR: If you ask me any of the questions below I'll say ... Sorry, I don't answer these questions, but would you like to talk about how my answer will affect you? Are you quitting? Is there a re-org? Are you having a kid? Is Igor getting fired? It's common for a questioner to pose a question requiring a yes/no answer, with an intent to trap the respondent into disclosing information. For example, assume Quincy wants to know if Rachel is pregnant, and Rachel is, but doesn't want to disclose that information yet. There are three possible behaviors for Rachel, lie, disclose or abstain. Lie: Quincy: Are you having a kid? Rachel: No 2 weeks pass Rachel: I feel awful for lying but I'm having a kid Disclose: Quincy: Are you having a kid? Rachel: Please don't tell anyone, no one should know, but yes. Abstain: Quincy: Are you having a kid? Rachel: ...